Scot McKay

Dating Success: Why The Rich Get Richer

It's a well known and much debated economic principle that "the rich get richer". When it comes to finances, the rule tends to be that those who already have a certain level of financial liquidity tend to find it tons easier to make even more money. Giv... Read >

Dating Success: Doubt In The Face Of Belief

All of us are inspired when we hear stories of BELIEF in the face of DOUBT. Movies like "The Pursuit Of Happyness", "Rudy" and "Hoosiers" all come to mind. The characters in each respective flick are repeatedly told that they would or even SHOULD fail,... Read >

See Yourself As Others See You. See Others As They See Themselves

Let's talk about an altogether too common way in which both men and women completely hamstring themselves when it comes to gaining confidence and meeting members of the opposite sex. Today's angle is a particularly interesting one for two reasons. First... Read >

"I Don't Love You Anymore, Therefore You Must Be A Cheater"

The following story is true. The names have been changed to protect the innocent. But there isn't anything that's going to protect YOU from the very same thing happening in YOUR life unless you deserve what you want and put to an end any mindset whats... Read >

Getting Beat By A Girl

There's a lot of talk about "approach anxiety", and for good reason. It has been optimistically estimated that over 80% of all men are terrified of approaching attractive women they have ever met. And let's face it: without overcoming this fear it's al... Read >

The Myths Regarding Expensive Dating

Forget everything you've ever been brainwashed into believing regarding the importance of spending lots of money on dates. You are impressing nobody by dropping a lot of cash. Instead, you may actually be demonstrating desperation by doing so, if not a ... Read >

I Have A Finely Tuned "Fluff" Detector

I'm not sure exactly. Maybe it was the seven years I spent working with gang kids. Perhaps I've been conditioned by those eleven years' worth of high-pressure dealings with telecom companies. Or, more likely, it was the last five years of dating that g... Read >

Having Dating Options And Exercising Them

Unless you been popular with the opposite sex your entire life, today's topic is uncharted territory for you. Although just about anyone who is highly eligible can struggle with what we are about to talk about, it's those who have most recently made chan... Read >

The Media Has Lied To You About What The Opposite Sex Is Attracted To

Every day it's a constant barrage of noise. All of us, apparently, have to make some big changes-and now---or else you'll never get a date again. All for 3 easy payments of $49.95. Oh, come on. Are we really this gullible? Lately I've been paying... Read >

“But I’m ‘Average’, How Can I Possibly Deserve The Partner Of My Dreams?”

Generally speaking I am blessed to receive emails on a daily basis from readers and listeners expressing dramatic life change. I love to hear from people who are refusing to settle and therefore deserving what they want more and more every day. I truly ... Read >

The Most Critical Thirty Minutes In Dating

There has been a lot of work to do around here lately, so last night it was time to relax a bit. Emily and I decided to rent a movie. The mood struck me for some reason to go old-school and I suggested "Roman Holiday", which seemed a solid choice becaus... Read >

Is Your Ex Still Controlling You? (Part Two)

Last time we discussed ways an ex-spouse or ex-"significant other" can affect you by expressing opinions that you may actually still be considering as factual. Today, we're going to dive deeper. Just because you may be wise to the words your ex may us... Read >

Is Your Ex Still Controlling You? (Part One)

Your ex's opinion no longer counts. As if it ever did. No kidding. Now don't get me wrong. Having been married for almost eight years, being divorced involved breaking some hard habits. For a while there I still referred to her as "my wife'er, I ... Read >

Screening Online Dating Profile Narratives

In a previous edition, we discussed how to screen pictures people post in online dating profiles. This time, we are going to talk about how to 'crack the code' with regard to what people are actually saying in the "narrative" portion. There are two wa... Read >

Why Most Self-Help Schemes Will FAIL

Most of us have tried some sort of self-help or self-improvement plan at some point in our adult lives. It's only natural to want to change, especially (and stereotypically) at the start of a New Year. Perhaps you've wanted to battle a weight problem, b... Read >